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Irene McGuinness's avatar

Did you take a page from my book? My line, “I can do it myself.” Watching my dad’s example. But until a month ago, that fortitude took a beating and I’ve lost my ‘I can do it compass’. First time. If I can make it to the sofa after getting out of bed, that’s progress. I’ve had to step back and recalibrate my lists and plans. Tough juice to drink.

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Holly Huitt's avatar

Very tough juice. Sending love.

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Emily Hawn's avatar

Thank you for this. It popped un the middle of a workday, where I do a job I have no aptitude for and provides no sense of purpose. I loved my dad, and he taught me similar things. I am happy to be thinking of him right now. And I also don't know whether the "toughness" I got from either of my parents was a gift or a burden. I don't know how to see myself, but I know how I saw my dad, and I am glad to have been his daughter.

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Holly Huitt's avatar

I’m glad it resonated with you. I catch myself praising my kids for being tough without thinking (they really are!) Then I always lamely follow up with, “But you don’t have to be!”

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Jeanne Wettlaufer's avatar

Yes! My ex-husband & I used to say where the heck did these independent, stubborn children come from? Oh yeah, the gene pool with both us independent & determined if there’s a desire to get something done.

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Jetton's avatar

I often joke our father, the Command Sargent Major, Jump Master ruined me for mortal men. "Oh you can't rebuild a carburetor with a coat hanger, field dress a deer, cook for 15 or more for fun?" Made his two daughters stubborn and/or determined in the best possible way. I have shared exactly what you described, fierce love wrapped in pride. The relentless gift of a father's unshakable belief in you. Thank you and Tell your Dad I said Happy Father's Day.❤✌😉

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Holly Huitt's avatar

"The relentless gift of a father's unshakable belief in you." Exactly this!!

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Susan I Weinstein's avatar

Yes. Mine was part of “The Greatest Generation, as well as The Madmen era.”

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Kathyrn Merrithew's avatar

Keep on. No one needs it categorized, and your dad- he’s a shining example!

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Melissa  Noll's avatar

Holly, thank you for your tribute to your dad. I felt his presence as I read and I felt yours. I cried not out of sadness but out of recognition that this is your truth and this is love.

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kimberly standiford's avatar

a beautiful read.....thank you for sharing so openly and honestly---touched my heart.

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Sheryl Winstead's avatar

I love this and you both! Give him a hug from me💕

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Evelyn's avatar

Wonderful thoughts.

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Janice Milusich's avatar

Beautifully and heart fully written!

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Carmen Radley's avatar

Love this and you.

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Alanna Rose's avatar

I love this. And you and your dad.

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Lori Hendricks's avatar

Beautiful !

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Joy Nicholas's avatar

Always so, so good. 💗

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